It was never about the work. It’s not about the pots I spent hours scrubbing clean. It wasn’t about the hours dedicated daily and weekly to keeping a spotless house, folded laundry, or good food prepared from scratch daily. It wasn’t about the traditional lifestyle I never asked for or wanted but embraced whole heartedly.… Read more: Just. Stay Gone.

I was pulling up to a stop sign, headed to the store for last minute items, when I saw what I thought at first was a child rounding the corner. Her hair, a dark red, was curly and sort of flipped over to one side. At first glance you would be forgiven for thinking it… Read more: She is us. We are her. It’s… so wrong

Turning points in life are so quiet… unannounced, they tiptoe into our every day lives with little fanfare and sometimes accompanied by the most normal of things… a mom, nagging her son to clean his room… only to find at the end of the day he took all his cherished stuffed friends from childhood and… Read more: A well-worn stuffed cat… and a blue elephant

Happy Valentines day my lovelies. If you, like me, have spent decades navigating an emotionally (and physically) abusive relationship, today can be really. really. really hard. Today is a day where, in full transparency, we (as humans, not women or men) are supposed to remember the sacrifices of St. Valentine (who was tortured and beheaded… Read more: All that Valentines day has to offer…

We moved into our little heritage home almost 3 years ago; our shelter and safe respite. We moved from luxury, comfort, acreage, largess, and wealth into a home that hadn’t seen an update since maybe the 80s; a house that creaks and groans; that has its own smells, its own histories; it rocks and sways… Read more: The last box unpacked…